Is this grounds to cut ties?

I'm really struggling to decide if I should cut ties with this friend.

It’s even more so because there are so many ambiguous aspects to it.

Since we've been friends since childhood, it feels awkward to cut ties...

I want to hear an objective opinion on whether this is grounds to cut ties.

It doesn't matter if you speak harshly, just please speak the truth.

 

First of all, the biggest reason was when it was just the two of us.

It's so different when I meet up with other friends.

It's so much fun when we meet alone.

But when other friends are around, they subtly put me down.

I said, "I did this this time!" and they said, "That's easy."

It's not exactly unpleasant like this, though.

When I think about it on the way home, it's just enough to make me feel bad...

So now I don't meet up with other friends anymore.

 

What I definitely felt this time was that I was having a hard time, so I confided my worries.

They didn't even listen to what I had to say and just brushed it off, saying it would be okay.

I wasn't expecting much empathy either, but I was disappointed by the robotic reaction.

 

Not only this, but the photo... this is really big too.

It seems like the reason we meet is for photos. I don't know why they take so many pictures; they take them all day long.

They ask me to take their picture, but when I actually ask, they just take a quick, sloppy shot.

And last time, you didn't even ask if I could upload the photo.

I posted it on Instagram. That photo was really bad.

So I asked them to let me off, and they did let me off...

Also, they take all the photos I took and upload them as if they took them themselves, every single time.

 

I just wrote down the things that came to mind first.

I kept canceling plans and things like that to gradually distance myself from this friend.

But they keep making plans. They keep being persistent, so I have no choice but to meet them.

It's fine when I meet them, but it's just... like that when I get home.

It's not that I feel bad, but it's strange. Anyway...

Should I cut ties with this friend? Or should I just keep seeing them?

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